if i could talk my way into making this not stressful for you, i would. but you're all new, you're all just going to have to avoid whatever sounds unappealing and talk through anything you've got doubts about. nobody's ever complained about someone asking them too often if things feel good or if something's okay.
i guess that's my advice. ask questions and make sure they know you love them. it really does help out in a lot of ways. and they're gonna be nervous too so don't stress about playing it cool. just be honest.
you're gonna be okay, yusuke.
[After a moment:] i hate to go there but you may not want to try bottoming unless you're REALLY sure you're into it given it usually triggers people with traumatic memories and, well. halloween happened.
i'm not saying you can't ever do it but you're definitely going to want to take that very slow and warn everybody beforehand it could backfire.
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Date: 2017-11-18 05:49 am (UTC)i guess that's my advice. ask questions and make sure they know you love them. it really does help out in a lot of ways. and they're gonna be nervous too so don't stress about playing it cool. just be honest.
you're gonna be okay, yusuke.
[After a moment:] i hate to go there but you may not want to try bottoming unless you're REALLY sure you're into it given it usually triggers people with traumatic memories and, well. halloween happened.
i'm not saying you can't ever do it but you're definitely going to want to take that very slow and warn everybody beforehand it could backfire.