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Brendan Frye ([personal profile] pale_blue_arrow) wrote 2017-11-18 05:19 am (UTC)

that's normal, when it's meaningful, whether it's one person or two. it's not as much a you-specific thing as you'd think. i'm sure they're a little nervous, too. or maybe a lot nervous. it's a big step.

for whatever it's worth you don't have to worry about not being the best at insert-sex-related-thing-here. when it's with someone who cares they can forgive a lot of screw ups, trust me. love forgives many flaws.

are they both first timers too? it's probably better if you know that beforehand. that, and what they're not into. for instance some guys are really not into having their nipples touched and never will be, or some guys aren't comfortable with reach-arounds if eye contact is their thing, etc. and they need to know what you're not cool with trying, too. it's really hard to get back into the swing of things if you find that out by accidentally doing it.

i can't promise to make this somehow perfect but i do have a lot of advice on avoiding stuff that leads to awkward silence and the mood being broken.

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